An invitation to share and be known.
Curiosity is the energy that powers openness. No one feels comfortable to be vulnerable if they detect that the other person isn’t interested. Turn off your phone and try to prevent interruptions or distractions. The goal is give them freedom to wander and wonder about things. You’re not trying to be their counselor. There probably won’t be a big revelation. You’re simply offering your ear, to give them the gift of an opportunity to organize their thoughts. Do your best to ask open-ended questions and to use Active Listening Skills. They may be ready to process or they may just want to rehearse facts. Your job is to be curious and talk as little as possible. Silence is okay!